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Monday, November 28, 2005

Am I Immature?

Umur dah suku abad tapi fikiran budak-budak

This statement really kills me. In fact, hurting me. How do you justify maturity in every single person? How good you are at judging people?

Age and maturity may be interrelated but is obvious to be two different things. Age is countable and maturity is something beyond your judgement. Don't simply based on your bare observation to define maturity. Don't expect people to be as mature as what you think maturity is OR measure it at your own scale of maturity. I was labelled as immature just for few mistakes I've made in talking. Now I know. Better be 'Syhhh' to defend myself. Yes..you say it best when you say nothing at all. Whatever it is, I am who I am. I know how far I changed to become a better person as I grew older. However, I do admit that I will never be perfect but will try as much as I can for it.

Immaturity / Maturity Theory - As developed by Argyris.

By Accel-Team.com

According to Argyris, seven changes should take place in the personality of individuals if they are to develop into mature people over the years.

Individuals move from a passive state as infants to a state of increasing activity as adults.
Individuals develop from a state of dependency upon others as infants to a state of relative independence as adults.
Individuals behave in only a few ways as infants, but as adults they are capable of behaving in many ways.
Individuals have erratic, casual and shallow interests as infants but develop deeper and stronger interests as adults.
The time perspective of children is very short, involving only the present, but as they mature, their time perspective increases to include the past and the future.
Individuals as infants are subordinate to everyone, but they move to equal or superior positions with others as adults.
As children, individuals lack an awareness of a "self", but as adults they are not only aware of, but they are able to control "self".

These changes are only general tendencies, but they give some light on the matter of maturity. Norms of the individual's culture and personality inhibit and limit maximum expression and growth of the adult, yet the tendency is to move toward the "maturity" end of the continuum with age.

*fifa* writes @ *8:53 AM*

Friday, November 25, 2005

The meaning of DOB...

Ngeh..ngeh..ngeh..today I'm kind of in a mood of surfing the internet. And I come to visit miss kidal's blog. Menarik! Check dis out! There's always suratan and kebetulan in this kind of 'things'...heee

Your Birthdate: November 27

You are a spiritual soul - a person who tries to find meaning in everything.

You spend a good amount of time meditating, trying to figure out life.

Helping others is also important to you. You enjoy social activities with that goal.

You are very generous and giving. Yet you expect very little in return.

Your strength: Getting along with anyone and everyone

Your weakness: Needing a good amount of downtime to recharge

Your power color: Cobalt blue

Your power symbol: Dove

Your power month: September

Click to check yours!

*fifa* writes @ *7:43 AM*

Tuesday, November 22, 2005

How to deal with difficult people...

DEALING WITH HOSTILE-AGGRESSIVES

Stand up for yourself
Give them time to voice their concerns/issues
Get their attention carefully
Invite them to have a seat
Speak openly and honestly from your point of view
Avoid a head-on fight
Be patient and courteous
Maintain eye contact
Show them that you take them seriously

DEALING WITH COMPLAINERS

Listen attentively to their complaints, even if you feel guilty or impatient
Acknowledge what they're saying by paraphrasing and checking your understanding
Don't agree with or apologize for their allegations even if, at the moment, you accept them as true. Just listen.
Remain objective: state and acknowledge facts
Problem solve : asking specific, informational questions, ask for suggestions of resolution

DEALING WITH SILENT AND UNRESPONSIVES

Rather than trying to interpret what the silence means, get them to open up
Ask open-ended questions
Wait patiently for a response
Plan enough time to allow you to wait with composure
Agree on and state clearly how much time is set aside for your "conversation"
If you receive no response, comment on what is happening and end your comment with an open-ended question

Source : The Sylvester Jones - Leadership and Career Resource Center

*fifa* writes @ *2:50 PM*

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